The Power of Money

I don't know about you, but sometimes I get tired of playing the money game. 

Some days are better than others but most days it's a worry about making my money stretch until the next cheque comes in. 

Even when I don't have to worry about it, I still do. I've been doing a lot of EFT to help my abundance issues and it's definitely been helping. 

One big factor I've noticed is that I still have poverty thoughts. I'll find myself thinking "Oh, I wish I could afford that." or "I'll never be able to afford that." or " I don't have enough money." or "I'll never have enough money." or "Why do I never have have enough money." and so on. I even say those things out loud to my kids so I'm passing on my poverty thinking to them. But as I said, I'm working through those thoughts with EFT. 

I was at a workshop this weekend about Balancing Family and Work with Dr. Wayne Schlapkohl. He was so funny and his session was really good. 

One thing he brought up was the fact some people consider that the long hours they put in to provide for the family is just as important as spending time with their family. I think it depends on why they are working so hard. 

We live in a society where the more stuff we have makes us feel more successful. 

Maybe it's not a conscious thing, but we often look at what our neighbor has compared to what we have. If we have less than our neighbor, we feel inadequate and our desire to compare increases. 

So we buy comparable things to keep up with our neighbors, sometimes when we can't even afford them. 

Dr. Schlapkohl said that once your basic needs are met, the only reason there is a want for more money is for status. He didn't mean it in a negative way. What he was trying to point out is that we feel more successful if we have what everyone else has. This is the reason why so many people work so hard....why so many people miss time with the family.....it's like unconsciously trying to keep up with the Jones'. 

He pointed out, however, that once your basic needs are being met, there's no guarantee that you'll be happier with more money. There's been research done to prove that fact. 

Of course we need to have our basic needs met, but once they are.....everything we accumulate after that is just for our satisfaction of having what others have. 

Gives some room for thought there, doesn't it. 

I can relate to what he's talking about. I was with a group of friends this summer who were talking about all the places they had travelled and all the toys they own and so on. I went into my own pity party after that for a little bit. 

I haven't travelled much and we don't own a whole bunch of toys or a big camping trailer. I did some EFT for that, as well, because I couldn't understand where these feelings were coming from. I am happy for my friends for all that they have but I was unhappy because I don't have what they have. 

Dr. Schlapkohl made it all make sense for me. I was comparing myself to my friends and was, successfully, making myself feel less than. 

The crazy part is that I don't even really want what they have, but I still felt less than. Not one of them made me feel that way...it was all my own doing. I didn't even know that's what was behind it until this past weekend. 

I realized that I am happy. I love what I do....I love the time I have to spend with my kids. I love that I'm able to stay home with my toddler and share his milestones with him. 

Yes, we may struggle financially because we don't have what "everyone" else has, but it's okay. I'll never regret that I was missing out on my child's life....I'll never regret that I wasn't able to be home for my kids after school. Their basic needs are being met and I believe, they are benefiting more by the time I spend with them than the fact that I can buy them a new trinket whenever they like. 

I am also proud of the fact that I love my career choice and I can work at it when I have the time to do so. I may not have the disposable income that others have, but, I've realized, I don't need it. 

All I do when I do have more money is buy more stuff. 

Money is a powerful form of energy but it is just that. A form of energy that has incredible power. 

People judge people because of the money they do or do not have. Couples divorce over money issues. People steal money to get the things they think they need to make them happy. 

 Like most things, money is a state of mind...it can control you or not. 

 It can have power over you or not. I think it's time to take back the power money has on me.....that feels really good to say that. 

 Someone once told me that I'm too busy to let abundance in...I don't make room for abundance because I fill my day with too many other things...makes sense.

I think I'll go tap on it....~M